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Learning to sit with sorrow
I’ve been thinking this morning about the emotion I tend to avoid the most. Sorrow. Not the polite, conversational kind. The deeper version. The heavy, quiet ache that shows up when something doesn’t go the way you hoped. When a relationship changes. When expectations collapse. When life feels unfair or unresolved. For most of my life, I treated feelings like problems to solve or obstacles to remove. If something hurt, I tried to move past it quickly because I never wanted to

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Feb 63 min read
Expectations versus outcomes: The dating experience
After seven years, I’ve decided I don’t want to be single anymore. So, I’ve put myself back onto the market. Which, in practical terms, means dating apps (which, by the way, are the worst), and maybe trying something different like Table for Six — which I haven’t done yet, but can’t possibly be a worse experience than dating apps. Putting myself back out there has been interesting, not just because of the thought of dating itself, but because it’s forced me to look more close

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Jan 313 min read
What would you say to your younger self?
I’ve long believed that one of the most powerful questions we can ask ourselves is this: “What would you say to your younger self?” ...

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Jul 13, 20255 min read
What If the Universe Is Working in Your Favour?
Not long ago, I asked a friend why they didn’t believe the universe was working in their favour. Their answer? “Because that’s...

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Jun 14, 20254 min read
Killing your inner critic
What I am learning about my life, experiences and success, is my biggest blockers are not external factors - my boss, the economy or my...

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Jun 8, 20252 min read
Embracing a Growth Mindset: Transforming Fear into Challenge
Understanding Fear vs. Challenge The difference between fear and challenge lies in our perception. How we perceive these experiences...

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May 12, 20253 min read
How to find better
If you are tired of the life you are living, and dream for something better Change the lens through which you view your world. If you...

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Mar 21, 20252 min read
4 questions to improve your life
The quality of our life depends on how we feel, and how we feel about ourselves. Those two elements, more than anything else, shape the...

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Nov 6, 20223 min read
What better needs to thrive
I am fascinated about high-performance and what are the things that getting to better needs. Being better, is something I strive to...

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Jun 4, 20222 min read
How to improve your Mindset, in a Minute
I was out walking this morning, and as always, my mind started to wander. After 20 minutes, I noticed that my thoughts were centred...

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Aug 1, 20212 min read
Changing the way you feel about yourself
Overcoming stress, anxiety or simply quietening that voice in your head that keeps saying you aren't good enough; is as simple as one...

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Jul 17, 20212 min read
Rules for Healthy Living
The rules for healthy living have been the same since the dawn of time. It's about finding the right balance and making the right choices...

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Jun 26, 20212 min read
Hope is a doing word
Life is hard. Even when things are going your way, life is still hard. And there is always going to be a disconnection between your...

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May 6, 20212 min read
4 things to do when stress takes over
Stress isn’t always a bad thing. It makes us focussed, sharpens our intent and can make us rise to new levels of achievement. But what...

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Apr 8, 20211 min read
Your most important relationship
A lot is written about our relationships with other people and how important they are to our health and well-being. Backed up by science...

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Mar 26, 20212 min read
What does self-love mean?
A lot is said about self-love and self-care these days, which will mean different things to different people. But at its core, it is...

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Feb 21, 20211 min read
Process over outcome
Life is a journey, and it is never point-to-point. Some people will let you down; they won't be there when you need them. Whilst other...

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Feb 3, 20211 min read
What better mental health looks like
Good physical health is mostly dependant upon two elements: your behaviours and your practices. What you eat, how much you eat, how often...

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Jan 26, 20211 min read
Being kind to yourself
Being kind to yourself means being the same friend to yourself, that you are to the people around you. And this begins with speaking to...

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Jan 18, 20211 min read
Feelings, impermanence and building a better foundation to live
Whether we choose to admit it or not, life is hard, and life is struggle. And most of the time that struggle exists in-between what we...

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Jan 12, 20212 min read
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